Dating Tips for Single Dads and Single Moms:
6 Tips for dating with kids:
Whether you've been a single parent for three months or three years, starting to date again is likely to cause friction within your family. Especially for the kids. New romances mean mom or dad isn't around the house as much, and the kids, both tweens and teens, are going to react. Before your family melts down and your sweetie runs for the hills, here are our tips for integrating your new relationship with your family life.
1. Don't push. You may be head over heels in love, but the kids are going to need time.
2. Don't bring a string of new dates home.
3. Consider dating alternatives when using dating sites for single parents.
4. Know your children's tolerance level.
5. Set your intimacy rules and don't deviate.
6. Don't play your ex against your current.
Dating don'ts for single moms:
Don't lean too hard too soon.Resist the temptation to make the new guy a parenting helper right away,. Until you've actually decided that the time is right, don't ask him to pick up your daughter from ballet just because it's on his way over for dinner. "Hold back," it says. "Don't have him take on parenting roles until it feels stupid not to. When all three of you are saying, 'But ballet class is right by his office,' then it's time."
Don't be a martyr. It warns against using your kids as an excuse to avoid intimacy-putting them between you and your social life. In other words, sometimes the weekend away is more important than the basketball game.
10 things you may need to pay attention to when meeting your partner's kids:
1. When you notice the kids are being more disruptive when you are around- It's because they are competing with you for their parent's attention. At this point it's best to back off a bit from spending time with them, so they know they are first in their parent's eyes.
2. Never compete with the kids' biological parent.
3. Never say anything to make the kids think poorly of their biological parent.
4. Never compare yourself to the 'ex-parent'.
5. Ask the mother what her discipline standards are, and never discipline her kids without her permission and never stricter than her.
6. Always ask the mother if you want to buy the kids anything.
7. Always be kind to the kids, EVEN WHEN THEY ARE BEING PILLS, remember their age. (5 & 7 in my case)
8. When she leaves them in your care, follow her instructions to the letter. As she has a schedule and an ordered way she does things in her mind. Any deviation from her plan - makes waves and makes the kids want to do things differently with her.
9. Never argue or have a disagreement in front or in ear-shot of them.
10. Never talk down or discipline your partner in front of them. This makes them realize its OK for them to do that to you. And the final note for you to think about before taking that next step.
Remember that the children may start to love you too, and as painful as it is for you and your partner to separate - REMEMBER!! It hurts the children too. Don't take that next step in your relationship, until you are 100% positive that you both want to be with all of them for a long-term relationship.